A man is looking for someone who has an edgier sexual life
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I met this guy and we hit it off pretty well. A couple things about this man: Just thru conversing with him I think he sees me as being too wimpy / insecure and is looking for someone who has an edgier sexual life.
However, I didn't pretend to be anything I'm not, and pretty much laid all my card on the table in concern to who I am, my sexual background & experience, dating history, personal history. But I think this approach may have backfired on me. So, Am I reading into it too much? Maybe I just need to be more assertive here?
You've got to scale things up in stages
I believe people want the truth, and they deserve that much. This happens often than: you hit it off great, and then things go downhill suddenly. People who suddenly “ change ” with no explanation are simply cowards. Whatever went wrong, they are not willing to say.
They feel that simply dropping out of your life almost as if you've never met is easier than facing you and talking things over.
A man testing for your level of interest
The most important thing for you to know, regardless of what went wrong, is that you deserve better than this treatment. He is showing his true colors now, and as you also said, it is better that things go this way now, than down the road. How absolutely right you are.
You deserve friends who value and respect you and treat you right. Surround yourself with people who treat you with decency. Socialize more so you can meet someone worthy, and don't look back.
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Bottom line: You said " I feel like any further attempts at communication would make me seem desperate and would probably be futile." Don't demean yourself by calling, emailing or trying to communicate with this man in any way. It will be hard to be in the same environment, as I know you have mixed emotions and feeling you deserve answers.
If I were you, I'd behave like a person with class, a much bigger person than he obviously is. I would say “ hi “ only, as common courtesies, and then completely ignore him, no more, no less. For more tips about dealing with rude partner, refer to e-books in the series "Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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