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I got attracted to a coworker and I could try to pursue a friendship with him, but I am not even sure that he wants this. We have had some great conversations and I found that we are interested in the same things and share many of the same values and attitudes. Things became more intense with very prolonged eye contact.
There has been very little physical contact, we are both rather shy. A few times when we have touched he seemed to become quite flustered. This may sound like the beginning of a real relationship, but on the other hand, he has never expressed any interest in seeing me outside of work. I do believe from hints that he has dropped during our conversations that he has rather low self-esteem; he has trouble making eye contact and initiating a conversation except about work matters. Now how do I proceed with this man?
There could be any number of reasons why he has decided not to escalate your friendship into a relationship. Considering that he has been married previously it could have been that it had affected him quite badly and that he has been reluctant to start/begin a new one. He might not have allowed his heart to have mended from his former marriage and is still hung up on his ex.
When he first noticed you and began to hang around your cubicle he inadvertently started a series of events that a person could mistake for as a sign of interest. Subconsciously he was going through the routines of befriending you, spending time with you and making a connection.
However even if the will was there to begin something the intention was not. In this regards all the effort that was put into the makings of creating a relationship actually fell short of actually becoming one.
I do not think that not accepting your offer of food was actually a reflection of how he felt about you. A rebuff on you as a person. If he is old school (has a gentlemen type way of thinking) and he saw that you only had two sandwiches for example he might have declined your offer because he did not want to deprive
you of your lunch.
Bottom line: Should you decide to choose to be in his life you should orientate your mind towards caring about him as a fellow human being and not expecting anything in return. (i.e. for him to like you as a partner and therefore chasing you etc)
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